tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post6306567042512338468..comments2023-11-05T00:39:42.623-07:00Comments on Dura Mater: Loose endsChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02851098760576370829noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-72025496128751083672007-09-24T18:57:00.000-07:002007-09-24T18:57:00.000-07:00Yep... Real. Really real. Fur rubbed off and all. ...Yep... Real. Really real. Fur rubbed off and all. ; ) <BR/><BR/>God bless you and keep you.Old Dominion Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09930738225741453827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-11598157383121004362007-09-23T20:55:00.000-07:002007-09-23T20:55:00.000-07:00WOW! I JSUT STARTED READING YOUR BLOGS! SPENT THE ...WOW! I JSUT STARTED READING YOUR BLOGS! SPENT THE BETTER HALF OF THE DAY GOING BACK TO THE BEGINING!! IM NOT SURE WHAT TO THINK...OTHER THAN YOU ARE A WOMEN WHO CAN'T GET OVER THE FACT THAT YOUR HUSBAND NO LONGER LOVE'S YOU AND HAS MOVED ON!! HONEY AS HARD AS THAT IS TO UNDERSTAND YOU GOTTA LET IT GO AND LET IT BE!NOT JUST FOR HIM AND YOUR CHILDREN BUT FOR YOU AS WELL!! LET IT GO AND LET IT BE!! YOU SAY YOUR A GODLY PERSON, WELL THEN LIVE UP TO THAT!! ALL THIS NEGATIVE,BITTER BATTLE YOU SEEM TO HAVE WITHIN YOUR SELF IS HARD ON ONES SOUL! I TAKE IT AS I HAVE READ YOUR BLOG, YOUR EX HAS MOVED ON? TWO YEARS HUH, HONEY THE MAN IS "NOT COMING BACK"! WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO HOLD ON TO SOMEONE WHO DOESNT WANT YOU? LET THE MAN LOVE HIS CHILDREN, THAT IS A GODLY THING TO DO!! HE LEFT "YOU" NOT HIS CHILDREN! THE CHILDREN WILL GROW UP AND REALIZE ON THEIR OWN WHAT IS TRUE AND NOT TRUE!! THEY WILL FIGURE IT OUT!! AND I DON'T THINK YOU WANT TO BE ON THE WRONG SIDE...WORK TOGETHER FOR THE KID'S!! LET HIM GO FOR YOURSELF DIGNITY! AND IF THE OOMPA LOOMPA EVIL SPIRITS STIKE HIM DEAD WELL SO BE IT...TAKE CARE OF YOUR SELF PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY...LET IT GO AND LET GOD....GOD BLESS, SCARLETT<BR/><BR/>P.S. I SEE YOU HAVE DELETED A FEW COMMENTS I DON'T SUPPOSE YOU WILL KEEP THIS ONE,HUH!!SCARLETThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03105318349300308677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-88001360757649331452007-09-22T20:46:00.000-07:002007-09-22T20:46:00.000-07:00Thanks for all the comments, folks. I immensely a...Thanks for all the comments, folks. I immensely appreciate the support and have archived it all. You may notice that I removed comments which referenced the um, dogfight or showed up in response to it, however obliquely. Please know how much I admire each of you for being willing to step into the middle of the fray for me. Honestly, I couldn't leave all that stuff here--its very presence would be taunting me, just like the original comment which opened the floodgates.<BR/><BR/>The purpose of this blog is to keep friends and family updated on Q's progress and the kids' goings on, and to allow me to remain sane via creative use of syntax. Neither of those purposes are served by the tone perpetuated by certain folks who've since vowed never to return. Let's take them at their word(s) and cut loose--party at my place! BYO goofy sense of humor and a sleeping bag for when we can't laugh anymore 'cause our abs have had all they can stand.<BR/><BR/>Blessings, gratitude and peace (truly),<BR/>CChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02851098760576370829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-64359974347854279352007-09-21T09:35:00.000-07:002007-09-21T09:35:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Robin Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07765229264945106765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-65621529205885471312007-09-21T00:01:00.000-07:002007-09-21T00:01:00.000-07:00Okay, C...So we've talked, you and I, but after re...Okay, C...<BR/><BR/>So we've talked, you and I, but after reading this stuff/fertilizer, I simply can not leave it with another phone call. I must post. But where to begin....<BR/><BR/>Clearly, this was a necessary and much-identified-with addition to your blog. MANY, many, many have responded to and identified with what your wrote. Interesting that only one post referred to any of your other news of the day. I reckon I'll pile on to passion-inducing portion.<BR/><BR/>So to the two ignorant, narcissistic adulterers; allow me to set the record straight: C's original posting (which caused such an uproar/response) was in reference to my conversation with her and the caca my man and I were/are going through. It was NOT about the two of you or about C--though she could clearly identify with my pain as she has been living it for an uninterrupted two years.<BR/><BR/>My pain stems from the same pain the second posting so eloquently shared. I am in a marriage with a MAN (not to be confused with a male homo-sapien) who has been plodding his way through the daily things of life... well, I don't have to go into it--you read it on C's blog. What she wrote and quoted from the incredible book, Wild at Heart, are my life and what we talked about the other day. <BR/><BR/>This all started benignly enough. A phone call to say "hi" led to an "I gotta read you this excerpt" which led to tears (sobbing, tears dripping from my face) on my part and an outpouring of fears, pain, insecurity and enough-of-it-all-except-for-the-kids admission which had been previously shared with NO ONE while being felt/lived/experienced for six years. Yeah, SIX. Not six years of misery-only, but fun times nad mediocrity and much misery. I've loved him, desired him, liked him, done for him, lusted him, I've read the books, I've talked to him, I've prayedprayedprayedpleadedprayed, I've given up, I've ignored the hurt, I've existed, I've resigned myself. None of it worked. <BR/><BR/>The Lord, in His infinite wisdom (guess that's why He's God) led C to pick up the phone to say "hi". The rest was also His plan. She doled out her typical pragmatic wisdom and incredible resources. She allowed herself to be used by God. She held me accountable. She stepped outside herself and her HUGE amount of other things to do and was THERE for me. She advised and cared. She prayed and didn't stop. For her, her wisdom, and her friendship I am forever grateful.<BR/><BR/>The next day, my REAL MAN approached me after the kids were in bed and asked me if there was anything we needed to discuss. This does not happen ordinarily--avoidance happens. I was ready to answer my typical, "nothing's wrong" (because what's the point anyway?) when C's words came back to me--"you've got to be totally vulnerable and take the risk." I don't like that. Not after so much hurt and being dumped on each time I've tried to talk to him. Did it anyway. And guess what? We talked, listened, heard, loved, cried, laughed, and connected with each other. We agree that we can't remember when that happened last.<BR/><BR/>Coincidence? I think not. I am sitting here in bliss (okay, so it's only been a few days but that's longer than it usually lasts), confident in the knowledge it was due to prayers and the desire on the part of my MAN to be a MAN! <BR/><BR/>I praise God that my MAN manned up, plowed through the fertilizer, stepped up, and reached out to me. Though neither of us had verbalized it before our conversation, we're still here, in this marriage, mostly because of our commitment to each other and our children. If either of us operated on our "feelings" this marriage would have dissolved, I fear. <BR/><BR/>I am so blessed to have a good man. I'm so blessed to have a dear friend who understands. I'm so blessed that my man is an honorable man who never entertained the idea of finding happiness elsewhere--or even thought of looking for it. I'm so blessed that my man knows how to be a husband and a daddy. I'm so blessed that neither my husband nor I "went there" in our mind on any of the multitude of times in a marriage when you look at your spouse and wonder, 'what was I thinking?!?!?' I'm so blessed that my man doesn't allow his eyes to wander. I'm so blessed that my husband has never flirted back with women who recognize a good thing when they see him. I'm so blessed that my man has a relationship with God and honors that relationship. I'm a blessed woman and I pray I can live long enough to deserve these blessings.<BR/><BR/>C, you too are a blessed woman. You have a direct line to God and He is honoring your efforts and integrity. You are blessed with 5 incredible children (yep, I'm jealous) and they are soooooooo blessed to have you as their Momma, giving limitless love and security. You are blessed with incredible parents who are standing in the gap with you. You are a woman with more true friends than is imaginable.<BR/><BR/>To the other two...Adam and Eve blew it, King David blew it, many others in the Bible blew it, I've blown it. We all have begged forgiveness from those on this planet we wronged as well as from God. We were blessed enough to receive that forgiveness. You've both blown it... but the same hope and promise of forgiveness exists for you. I am fervently praying for your souls. Our time on this Earth is truly a blink, but to miss out on eternity? That would be truly tragic. To miss out on the sweet promise of restored health--physical and mental? To miss out on eternity with your children? I beg you both NOT to allow that to happen.<BR/><BR/>I'm so tempted to be enraged and witty and rude here (and let's be honest, I DID enjoy the postings that were cheeky) but I'm just too saddened by this all. I AM enraged but I'm not very productive when I write enraged (though it feels awfully good!). Instead, I just wish...<BR/><BR/>I wish for a restored home and sense of security for five little innocents. I wish for commitments to be honored. I wish for individuals to be honorable. I wish for empathy. I wish for understanding. I wish for happiness and 50th anniversaries for those who make commitments. I wish for life the way God intended us to live it. <BR/><BR/>Blessings to all effected.<BR/><BR/>C, you are amazing, inspiring, valued, cherished, missed, lifted up in prayers, and loved.<BR/><BR/>--K in CaliAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-70024560999728027492007-09-20T19:41:00.000-07:002007-09-20T19:41:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09595728198719089137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-91512858517741913682007-09-20T19:37:00.000-07:002007-09-20T19:37:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-86080413541200309992007-09-20T16:41:00.000-07:002007-09-20T16:41:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-61298721885590404032007-09-20T16:34:00.000-07:002007-09-20T16:34:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Momfulltimeto5https://www.blogger.com/profile/03796128340672246249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-74762907643170282682007-09-20T16:24:00.000-07:002007-09-20T16:24:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-6874593921586896732007-09-20T15:35:00.000-07:002007-09-20T15:35:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-49972181697539315902007-09-20T15:06:00.000-07:002007-09-20T15:06:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-75218154675777131502007-09-20T15:02:00.000-07:002007-09-20T15:02:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-58616823770161047952007-09-20T14:57:00.000-07:002007-09-20T14:57:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-81655373201886434702007-09-20T14:53:00.000-07:002007-09-20T14:53:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-52075919585400201882007-09-20T14:42:00.000-07:002007-09-20T14:42:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-23221492922667596792007-09-20T13:44:00.000-07:002007-09-20T13:44:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-82077388751861649362007-09-20T13:43:00.000-07:002007-09-20T13:43:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-64299822343054322822007-09-20T13:28:00.000-07:002007-09-20T13:28:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-47675701766985755172007-09-20T13:26:00.000-07:002007-09-20T13:26:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-9733843095241160542007-09-20T12:50:00.000-07:002007-09-20T12:50:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-9351875057530174112007-09-20T11:40:00.000-07:002007-09-20T11:40:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-87968310616760853172007-09-20T11:39:00.000-07:002007-09-20T11:39:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-9983584251577938392007-09-20T11:05:00.000-07:002007-09-20T11:05:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Patty in WA or Roverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07215707718602382627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24289631.post-48897402133186565792007-09-20T10:58:00.000-07:002007-09-20T10:58:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com